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I've been reading For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn with a friend of mine from church. I think it's always good to read books of this nature as a gentle reminder of what being a wife looks like. Our crazy world gives us a mixed of version of what women should be and how we should interact with the men in our lives. I've only read through chapter two, but Feldhahn shares some stuff that makes you think...here's a few good reminders on respecting your husband.

• Don't compare your husband's abilities/skills/attitudes to those you've seen in your dad or brother (or other men, for that matter). God gifts us all differently. Focus on what your husband does well!
• Stop reminding (BURN! This was convicting!). It's not the reminder that's degrading to your husband as much as the implication... sometimes the reminder is hinting that he is being lazy or plain stupid. Your husband often already know what needs to be done around the house without the reminder... practice waiting... sometimes the torn apart refrigerator isn't the most important thing that needs to be accomplished for them that day (I may or may not know this from experience :).
• Soften what you say. A women's tongue that goes uncontrolled comes across as harsh and disrespectful. Remember that rule of think before you speak? Apply it.
  
• A great way to show your husband respect is by bringing your his great qualities to light... at home and in public.

So thankful for a husband who loves me deeply. Lord, help me respect him accordingly.